this was extremely helpful. for one, to remember how important it is to not take things personally. and two, to see that it is so feasible to get out of this mindset.
it either is not about you or it is. and we usually don't care if someone calls us something we are sure we are not. but, if there is some doubt about it, that's when the words hurt. be kind to yourself, accept that someone has noticed your flaw (that's okay), accept that they were probably too mean about it, and move onwards.
